Wednesday 27 July 2016

Life exposes us to many experiences



Life exposes us to many experiences – good, bad and ugly, some positive and some negative and these experiences help us as we go further down the path of life. This path is not easy, it is full of hurdles and also of successes and good things. These are a part and parcel of life and we have to take them as given. Sometimes we fail for no apparent reason, sometimes others let us down – these things happen, they are life itself.
Here are times when you feel you have been tricked – you think some person (or persons) have caused you to fail. Those whom you trusted, those who are indebted to you for various kindnesses in the past let you down and you feel betrayed. These things happen due to circumstances. People may let you down because of an upheaval in their lives, some may make a wrong decision and create difficulties for you – but these things happen. They are not pardonable but they are a part of life. Everyone you meet will have gone through a similar situation, you are not alone in this.
Stop a while
When you feel betrayed or conned or taken advantage of, stop a while. Do not be quick to pass judgment on those who have tricked you. You may have done the same thing to someone else at some other time. So look at the situation from the other person’s perspective and you will understand better why they acted in a manner that hurt or upset or cheated you. This kind of situation happens with close friends and families too. Just remember to handle it with tact and sensitivity.
When there is communication
The best way to solve a problem of this kind is to talk it over with the other person. It gets things out in the open and when there is communication any difficult situation can be resolved. Before starting on this conversation believe that nobody can really con anyone else – it is all a matter of circumstances.
 A tip – figure out what happened and analyse the circumstances, not the person.  Assess the causes, the negative points of what happened – do not judge the person at all. Be neutral and rational in your evaluation of the situation and take steps to improve matters in a calm, sensible way. Being logical and rational rather than judgmental, will help you and make things better.



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