Bringing up children is not an easy task. It has to be done carefully so that the emotional and behavioral well-being of children is not harmed in any way.
A lot of parents complain about the behavior of their children but they should realize that they themselves are to blame for what their children have become. A recent study on college students has shown an increase in the incidence of depression and anxiety syndrome among this group. It has also shown that these children are finding it more and more difficult to cope with problems in their daily life.
My experience shows that is a consequence of “helicopter parenting” which is a case of over-protective, intrusive, controlling parents. Because of such parents, children grow up without a sense of responsibility and cannot do anything on their own.
Day-to-day problems
Another study on the behavioral and emotional psychology of students to measure their ability to cope with day-to-day problems and has shown that these students either quit their jobs or expect special favours – all of them had control freaks as parents.
Blaming parents does not serve any purpose. They tend to over-protect their children out of concern and love for them, not because they want to harm them in any way. But their actions have a reverse effect on the children, which they do not realize.
Opportunity to discover
It will be far smarter for parents to be “good parents” rather than being “super parents”. They need to understand that children have to be given some leeway while growing up. Children need time and opportunity to discover, to adjust and to grow up. Parents should put themselves in their children’s shoes before they try to take over and rule their lives. They should remember what it was like when they were young themselves and not impose too much on their children. This will make life easier for both – parents and children.
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