Life exposes us to many experiences – good, bad and ugly,
some positive and some negative and these experiences help us as we go further
down the path of life. This path is not easy, it is full of hurdles and also of
successes and good things. These are a part and parcel of life and we have to
take them as given. Sometimes we fail for no apparent reason, sometimes others
let us down – these things happen, they are life itself.
Here are times when you feel you have been tricked – you
think some person (or persons) have caused you to fail. Those whom you trusted,
those who are indebted to you for various kindnesses in the past let you down
and you feel betrayed. These things happen due to circumstances. People may let
you down because of an upheaval in their lives, some may make a wrong decision
and create difficulties for you – but these things happen. They are not
pardonable but they are a part of life. Everyone you meet will have gone
through a similar situation, you are not alone in this.
Stop a while
When you feel betrayed or conned or taken advantage of, stop
a while. Do not be quick to pass judgment on those who have tricked you. You
may have done the same thing to someone else at some other time. So look at the
situation from the other person’s perspective and you will understand better
why they acted in a manner that hurt or upset or cheated you. This kind of
situation happens with close friends and families too. Just remember to handle
it with tact and sensitivity.
When there is
communication
The best way to solve a problem of this kind is to talk it
over with the other person. It gets things out in the open and when there is
communication any difficult situation can be resolved. Before starting on this
conversation believe that nobody can really con anyone else – it is all a
matter of circumstances.
A tip – figure out
what happened and analyse the circumstances, not the person. Assess the causes, the negative points of
what happened – do not judge the person at all. Be neutral and rational in your
evaluation of the situation and take steps to improve matters in a calm,
sensible way. Being logical and rational rather than judgmental, will help you
and make things better.
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